When the Powers That Be at Decadent asked if I’d do a post for the YA Blog Stomp, I almost said no. I admit, I like sticking to my nice, safe, “blog on Thursdays” plan. Once a week. Consistency. After all, I need more consistency in my life.
Then I snapped out of it and reminded myself that while consistency is great, it’s also boring as hell.
So I said yes.
Now here I sit, stamping my feet and getting crabby at myself because I have no topic for my post. Actually, that’s a lie. It’s a pretty lie that I like to tell myself.
Truth is, I’m not irritated with myself because I don’t have a topic, I’m irritated with myself because I’m scared.
Every time I write a story, I’m putting myself out there to be judged, and I’m good with that. I can accept it. But blogging is more personal for me. It’s not introducing you to the characters I make up in my head, it’s letting you right into my head. And that scares the crap out of me.
At my core, I haven’t changed much since high school in that regard. I’m still the shy one. (All you people who know me and are laughing right now, stop it. You’ll understand in a minute.) I’m still the girl who’s afraid to put myself out there. The one who’d rather sit back and stay quiet than risk rejection.
As a writer, though, rejection is part of the game, and I’ve seen my share. At this point in my life, I’ve seen it in other parts of my life too. I like to think I cope with it better now, but reality isn’t so pretty. I just pretend better.

Heather and Me (Yes, I know I'm dating myself with this photo, but I don't care. See? This is me...being bold
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It’s sort of like the shy thing. In ninth grade, my friend Heather decided I needed to bust out of my shell, and she spent the next three years trying to push me to do it. Then came college and Heather wasn’t with me anymore. I was still naturally shy, but I’d seen the things that could happen if I stepped out and was bold. So, with no Heather around, I pushed myself. At this point in my life, I’ve spent a lot of years pushing, and most of the time it’s almost second-nature. (To the point that a lot of people would say I’m not shy at all, which is a testament to how well I faked them all out
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But sometimes, I go right back to being that girl who was terrified the cute boy in math would find out I’d been crushing on him for three years. Or the one who hides behind her textbook, studying, to avoid talking. Or who, like Elle, dresses to be invisible.
One of the reasons I like to write YA so much is that I still have those moments. Deep down, I’m still the shy, quiet girl I was then, and when I remember what it was like, every emotion from then comes rushing back. Hell, I’m married now with two kids, but at those times, I still feel more of a kinship with fifteen-year-olds than I do with people my own age. Because, you know, by now I should really be over all those insecurities.
But I’m not, and so I stomp my feet and dig in my heels and try to hide behind my book and disappear. Of course, the foot stomping not only draws attention to me, it also makes me feel like I’m six.
Sixteen was so much better than six.
And because of that, I eventually stop stomping my feet. I put on my biggest smile and force my way out of that shell I can’t seem to lose. It’s okay though. I’ve come to like the shell. It’s my connection to a part of my life a lot of people do their best to put in the past and forget.
Personally, I’d rather forget being six.
(Oh, and that boy from math class? He still doesn’t know. He might suspect, but I certainly never told him.)
So what about you? Is there a part of you that helps you connect to yourself at a younger age (even if it is six)?
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Commenters on today’s post are entered to win a Decadent title of their choice. In addition, all commenters will be entered into Decadent’s grand prize drawing. There’s some great stuff to win, so please enter today and enter often! Tomorrow night (July 6), Decadent is having a YA chat at 9pm eastern time at http://www.theromancestudio.com/chat.php . And then on Thursday, the stomp continues at Enduring Romance (http://enduringromance.blogspot.com/).